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So then, just as you received Christ Jesus as Lord, continue to live in him, rooted and built up in him, strengthened in the faith as you were taught, and overflowing with thankfulness. Colossians 2:6–7
Overview of the Knowledge Root: God is enormous. He’s too big, too awesome, and too complicated to wrap our minds around. Yet he wants us to know him. He wants a relationship with us, so he has revealed himself in a number of ways. Creation tells us about God. The world around us is covered in his fingerprints. The Bible tells the story of God’s relationship with his people over the centuries. It also gives us names that describe him—Creator, Almighty, Holy One—and metaphors to help us connect with him—Father, Rock, Shepherd. He sent his Son, Jesus, to live on earth as fully God and fully man, "God with us." And he sent the Holy Spirit to comfort us and unite us to him. We will never know everything about God. But in order to become his disciples, we need to know some essential truths about the One we follow.
The Parent Guide: We realize that you, as parents, are the primary faith influencers in a young person’s life. The best disciple making takes place when students’ parents take the lead. That’s why we’ve created this helpful guide for you to use at home with your child. It is designed to give you some basic information about what is being taught at church through the Deep Discipleship program, along with some helpful tools, suggestions, and questions to help you reinforce this learning at home.
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Questions you can ask your child:
1) What are some things that happen in this world that you think break God’s heart? Do those things break your heart, too? God is a God of mercy and justice. How have you seen that play out in your life and in the world around you?
2) What injustices in our world are you most passionate about wanting to change? Do you ever think about using your life now to help bring justice and mercy to people who need it?
3) Which one of the “omni’s” is most impressive to you? Why? Which one gives you the most comfort? Why so?
4) What is one aspect of “general revelation” (how God reveals himself in nature and through the moral code on our hearts) that speaks directly to you? Why?
Activities you can do together:
1. Spend time outdoors in a natural environment with your child. Go camping. Walk on the beach or hike in the woods. Take a bike ride or just eat a meal out on the deck where you can see God’s natural creation. Go out at night, lay on the grass, and look up at the moon and stars. Regardless of where you go or what you do outside, use the time to talk about how amazing God is and how his creation tells us that over and over. God is revealing himself all the time, and his fingerprints are all around us. Take turns going back and forth sharing amazing things you see or are experiencing in God’s creation.
2. Watch the following video featuring the song “Do Something” by Matthew West (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b_RjndG0IX8). Talk with your child about what they are passionate about doing in this world for God. Use this opportunity to challenge, encourage, and inspire them to use their time and talents to serve God.
RESCUE: A GUIDE FOR PARENTS
Overview of the Knowledge of God Root: We are slaves, held captive by terrible enemies: sin and death. In this fallen, corrupt, and shattered world, we need a rescuer—Jesus, our savior and redeemer. In fact, he's the only one who can save us from this mess that started way back with Adam and Eve. He gave his followers freedom from sin and its effects when he took them on at the cross. This freedom comes at a great cost, but it gives us a new life and reconnects us with God forever. And once we’ve been freed, we have the opportunity to join in the rescue mission for others.
Week 1) Sin: Why do we need grace? This lesson emphasizes the fact that every person chooses to worship themselves instead of God. This introduces guilt, shame, and pain into the world. But thankfully, God has created a plan to save and heal us. Bible Passage: Luke 16:19–30
Week 2) Sacrifice: Why did Jesus have to die? This lesson dives into the idea that Christ’s sacrifice is necessary to bridge the gap between humanity and God. Bible Passage: John 3:1–21
Week 3) Salvation: How does being saved make a difference in my life today? Being saved and following Christ means that we have a mission to fulfill here on earth. In this lesson students be challenged to make the mission of Christ a part of their life on a daily basis. Bible Passage: John 9
Questions you can ask your child:
1) If someone asked you how or when you became a Christian, how would you respond? If you had to give your testimony, what would you say?
Note: Having your child tell you their salvation story is a powerful way to get a deep understanding of your child’s faith. It is also great evangelism training and a way to coach them in how they would share their testimony with others.
2) How do you and your friends talk about sin? Does it come up much? Why or why not?
Note: Sin is not a popular subject today, especially for young people. But it’s important to know and understand our sin and how we are to repent from it and claim Christ’s rescue of us. Talking about sin with your teenage child might not sound like fun, but you may be surprised by how they open up and want to share all that is going on in their world. Sometimes as parents, we just need to ask and listen. Only after really listening will we know how to guide, coach, disciple, and pray.
Activity you can do together:
Read the following excerpt from Cory Ten Boom’s book I’m Still Learning to Forgive (1972) together: http://www.familylifeeducation.org/gilliland/procgroup/CorrieTenBoom.htm From a human perspective, it is often difficult to fully understand and appreciate the love and forgiveness Jesus displayed through his death on the cross for our sins. The story of Cory Ten Boom, a holocaust survivor who forgave her captors, has the power to help us understand true forgiveness, sacrifice, and the salvation that only comes from Jesus. Use this story to talk with your child about Christ’s amazing love and how he forgave us.
SWO15 Week 2 from Snowbird Wilderness Outfitters on Vimeo.
Here is a glimpse of our week at Snowbird. When you watch the video you notice there are two camp experiences happening at the same time. SWO (Snowbird Wilderness Outfitters) is a summer camp experience with worship in the morning and evenings and awesome recreation packed afternoons. Then there is SMO (Snowbird Mission and Outreach) which is what Vertical 612 participated in. We had a separate morning worship session with 2 other churches and then we would go out and serve in the community until about 3:00 - 4:00 pm. We worshiped in the evening with the rest of camp. If we got back in time we were able to participate in on-campus recreation like; water slide, 3 man swing, rock wall, zip-line etc.. Friday was our recreation day, we went white water rafting and after lunch played paintball and other on-campus recreation.
We’re Teaching This: There are some moments in life that leave us all thinking, “Now what?”. Maybe it was when your teacher handed you a huge assignment and you didn’t even know how to start. Maybe it was staring at the blank screen after that assignment accidentally got deleted. Maybe your “now what?” moment came while sitting on the side of the road with a broken down car. No matter what the situation, you have probably had few experiences that left you with no idea of what to do next. In many ways, that’s how Jesus’ followers felt after He was crucified. No one expected him to die. Many of them had left their homes and jobs and families to follow this man they thought would be their new leader, a king who would fix all of their problems. Then He was killed and all of those hopes came crashing down. Some cried. Some ran away. Some were paralyzed by fear. But deep down, everyone was asking the same question, “Now what?”.
Think About This: Few moments are harder for a parent than watching your son or daughter experience a disappointment. Whether it’s being cut from the team, failing the test, or not getting the part in the school play, teenage disappointments can feel devastating. Even if the situation doesn’t seem like a big deal to us, it can rock our student’s world. That’s why it’s so tempting to help students avoid disappointment instead of learning to deal with it. In our minds we know that let-downs are a part of life and teaching our students to manage them is healthy, but does that mean we have to be completely hands-off when our son or daughter is going through a tough disappointment? Not necessarily. In his blog post, Helping Students Handle Disappointment and Pain, Dr. Tim Elmore gives parents five tips for helping their students walk through a disappointing time without bailing them out of it.
Talk to students about disappointment and pain. Let them know it is a part of life and a big part of growing up into healthy adults.
Share some of your own stories of past hurt or disappointments, and how you learned to deal with them.
Give your students perspective — big picture perspective — one what really matters. Help them separate the eternal issues from the temporal ones.
Do something together that may introduce sacrifice or hurt, and reflect on the experience along the way.
May I say it again? We have to prepare the child for the path, not the path for the child. This is our job as we build leadership qualities in the next generation. See more at: http://growingleaders.com/blog/tag/helping-students-handle-disappointment-and-pain/#sthash.3I5Om8P8.dpuf
One of the greatest things we can do for our children is give them the tools to navigate disappointment. Sharing stories is a great way to model both the how-to and the how-not-to when it comes to handling tough circumstances. Choose one of the options below as a conversation starter sometime this week.
Option 1: Talk about one person who has inspired you in the way they have handled disappointment. Option 2: Share a story of a time you were disappointed (by a situation that does not involve your family) and how you could have handled that disappointment in a healthier way.
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What is the biggest challenge you’ve ever faced? Maybe it’s a basketball game against your arch rival. Maybe it’s passing your math class. Maybe it’s just trying to get up and go to school on time. Whatever it is, you’re probably familiar with the little knot that forms in your stomach. The nerves. The feeling of being completely overwhelmed. The Bible tells the story of a guy named Nehemiah who was all too familiar with that feeling. In fact, it isn’t just one story—there’s a whole book in the Bible named after him. Growing up in service to a king in Babylon and then Persia, Nehemiah probably didn’t think his life would make much of a story. But when he learns that his family’s homeland is in ruins, something changes in Nehemiah. He decides to do something about it—to go there. To build. Nehemiah decided to face, head-on, the God-sized challenge of rebuilding the wall surrounding Jerusalem and creating a safe place for his people. And through his story, we may just find the tools we need to face the challenge of improving our town or our school. It’s time to build.
From Try This (No Limits)
Sometimes what we say and what our kids hear are two different things. Often, it’s hard to know if they could use a little extra encouragement or a little less pressure. Try asking your teenager if they’re pressured or encouraged by you. Use a scale of 1-10, with 1 being not enough encouragement and 10 being too much pressure. Now use the same scale and evaluate yourself…do you encourage your teenager enough or pressure too much?
Chances are you and your student will have different answers. That’s okay! Don’t let it discourage you! Use it as a conversation starter. Afterward consider showing your student how you answered. No need to make it a formal meeting. And, this doesn’t mean that you have to give in when they say, “I want you to bug me less about my math grade”. It simply shows them that you care what they think and it gives you both a way to get on the same page as you move forward.
Share Orange Parents link with encouraging question:
Here’s some great wisdom on how to give you kids worth and value without saying a word: http://orangeparents.org/to-shine-my-face/
When you were little, what did you dream about becoming? An astronaut? A ballerina? A professional wrestler? Whatever it was, chances are it was something that you felt was important. Something big. That’s the thing about little kids— they dream big because no one has told them that they can’t do something yet. They literally have no limits. But as we grow up we start to see the areas we lack. We’re not the most popular, influential or talented. And eventually we start to wonder if we can ever do or be anything significant. That’s exactly what happened to a guy named Moses. With a tough past and not many real skills, he had no reason to believe that his life would be used do anything extraordinary. But after a few encounters with God, Moses’ perspective changed completely. He found that with God, there is no limit to what you can do.
Think About This:
Do you ever wonder if you’re that parent? You know the one. The imaginary bar determining your success as a parent is always just out of reach. Or maybe you worry about over-parenting. You know you should probably back off a little bit—but you can’t help but always push, expect, encourage the best from your student. The truth is, parents usually are not satisfied with how they’re parenting—whether that is too much, too little, or a strange combination of both. And, every student is different—so it’s hard to gauge whether we are pushing them to succeed or pushing them to the brink of a breakdown. At some point or another, most of us wonder whether we expect too much or too little.
Research seems to suggest that, knowingly or unknowingly, most of us err on the side of too much pressure. In the Pew Research article, Parental Pressure on Students, authors Richard Wike and Juliana Horowitz ask, Have American parents become too pushy about their kids’ education? Many experts seem to think so, judging from several new books by journalists and psychologists that bemoan the growing pressure students feel to do well in school. But at least one group of non-experts — the American public — begs to differ. According to a Pew Global Attitudes survey, most Americans think parents are not pushing their children hard enough.
In other words, while most of us think we aren’t expecting enough out of our students, researchers and experts feel our expectations may be a little too high. So what exactly are we supposed to do?
Visit tomorrow but live in today. Especially with high school students, it’s easy to let most of our conversations drift toward what happens next. Decisions about classes, study habits, dating, and extra-curriculars lure us towards focusing on the future. And sure, college is coming, but our student isn’t there yet. For them, it can be overwhelming to feel like they have to have all of the answers about what’s next while still juggling the expectations they feel today. That doesn’t mean we should never talk about future goals, but don’t let it take up all of your conversational space. Be present in their present.
Believe the best —and say so. Sometimes our students will win in a certain situation and sometimes they’ll lose. Sometimes their choices will make us proud and other times they’ll make us cringe. Most students have a tendency to confuse our feelings about their actions with our feelings about them. But in every situation, communicate your belief in your student. Their performance, their behavior, their attitudes don’t diminish their value. They’re significant. Valuable. Worthwhile. Don’t ever miss a chance to tell them so. Consider making an extra effort to communicate that you believe good things about them regardless of how they perform at school or on the athletic field. Try saying something like this, “I wish you hadn’t cheated on your test and there will definitely be some consequences, but I don’t believe this is in your character. I know you’re an honest person and next time I really think you’ll study harder to make the grade.”
Sometimes what we say and what the other person hears are two different things. Often, it’s hard to know if they could use a little extra encouragement or a little less pressure. Try asking your student for feedback using the tool below. Chances are you and your student will have different answers. That’s okay! Don’t let it discourage you! Use it as a conversation starter. Afterward consider showing your student how you answered. No need to make it a formal meeting. And, this doesn’t mean that you have to give in when they say, “I want you to bug me less about my math grade”. It simply shows them that you care what they think and it gives you both a way to get on the same page as you move forward.
Use the section labeled “For the parent” to gauge where on the scale your parenting falls. Then cut along the dotted line and give the section labeled “For the student” to your student. Don’t ask them to complete it in front of you. Give them space to think about it and place they can leave it for you when they finish.
For the parent:
Draw a circle around the number you believe represents the level of pressure your student feels
Too few expectations Too many expectations
Too little encouragement Too much pressure.
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
cut along this line. ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
For the student:
Hey, as your parent, I want you to know that I’m doing the best I can to give you just enough encouragement without making you feel a ton of pressure. I want you to give me some feedback on how I’m doing in this area. Just circle a number and leave it _____________________ (location) so I can see how you feel. Be honest. Thanks!
I feel no one expects much of me. I feel too much is expected of me.
I could use some encouragment I can’t handle the pressure
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
If you answer 1-5, what’s one way I can encourage you more?________________________________________________________________________
If you answer 6-10, what’s one way I can help you feel less pressured?____________________________________________________________________
What is the difference between Reacting and Responding?
Actually there is a huge difference. If you and I can understand the difference we can build bridges instead of walls in our relationships with teenagers.
I want to start by sharing a great example from an experienced mom of teenagers:
It was my favorite lip gloss! Burt’s Bees (the tinted one, no less) is not exactly cheap. And did I mention it was my favorite? What could she possibly have been thinking? Every sane person knows that when lip balm is left in a warm car, it tends to get soft. So what would possess her to twist it till it was all the way up and then try to push it back down into the tube? Really? Of course it split right down the middle.
This would have been the perfect time to teach my teen the difference between reacting and responding. I failed. Again. There were so many ways to do this better. I could have said anything other than “What in the world do you think you are doing? Did you even think through that?”
How am I ever going to teach my child this lesson if I can’t get it myself? Reactions are governed by emotions, while responses are governed by the ability to think through the situation. That means closing our mouths and not saying the first thing that pops into our heads, which is usually critical.
Not so easy when our teen is hurling their attitude at us with acute precision. Don’t kid yourself. They know our buttons and are not above pushing them. Over and over and over. I think they have created a fantasy league where they earn points by pushing us over the edge again and again! But how different would our relationships be with our teens if we responded rationally to their attacks instead of reacting immediately?
There is one tool that I use that is helping me learn this concept. It’s called breathing. I know, profound, right? But you would be amazed at how well this works! First, it gives you a moment to lower your blood pressure. Extra oxygen always helps. And those few precious moments it takes to breathe a few extra times may be the difference between teaching them and arguing with them. I will take teaching every time!
I want to challenge all of the parents in our ministry to memorize with me a short verse to help us “breathe” when our teenager’s stir up anger in us.
Look up Proverbs 15:1, memorize it, and repeat it to yourself every time your teenager tries to push your buttons. Are you with me?
As always, if you have any questions or prayer concerns please feel free to contact me.
Your Parenting Partner,Pastor Chris